Hello world,
I know I don't blog often. And actually have decided that I'll only blog when I feel that it is needed :D
So, Fast Tracking.
Have been thinking about life and relationship as per usual. And have been thinking bout what makes a successful relationship or even life.
Then BOM! Just realized that our generation wants everything Fast Tracked. We have forgotten that life is about learning and growing and building. We want the best in technology, the best in transportation (cars), the best job and the list goes on and on.
I know we all deserve the best. But if only we can step back and realize that our parents actually work for all the things we have and most of them started off with nothing. Well, my parents did anyways. And so, not going on a holiday ever year is ok, not having a nice car but having to share a car or a smaller car, that I'll eventually have a good partner/ relationship and so on it is all ok.
Realizing that wealth can be slowly built up. And relationships, it starts with friendship. If relationships do not start with friendship and starts on infatuation or feelings of love, what happens to the relationship if love sort of subsides? The relationship is then reduced to oblivion. The reason for this conclusion is the mere fact that love is as many feelings are, here one day and may go the next day.
As such, if the relationship was based on a friendship to start of with, it will be able to sustain in the long run. Reason for this, simply because we are, as humans, as I would hope friendship is, more willing to compromise, to give and take, to build on and grow the friendship and to support one another.
So yeh, that's my spill on an epiphany I had this morning. :D Do comment and most of you have me on fb so do let me know what you think. As am in the growing process of understanding relationships. I don't think I've put across what comes to mind as succinctly as I should. But hopefully the gist is there :D
In conclusion, what's the point of rushing things. Enjoy life and look and plan for the future but do not rush foundation building and essential steps in life.
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- For I am called 'beloved' by God...And I am be-loved by my cousins, family and "extended" family (bros n sis in Christ).
4 comments:
wow...... tat's profound enough :)
got some info from there......
I agree with your general view of things. Too often I've seen fast-tracked shotgun marriages whether done due to circumstances or peer pressure that ends with a bitter divorce.
However, I would like to add that your view (that if a friendship precedes a relationship then it is the friendship that is sustained when the relationship fails) can be a dangerous and misleading if it is heavily relied on, as not all relationship fail for petty reasons.
Some may fail for more complex circumstances and result in feelings of betrayal, guilt, burden and hardship, wherein friendship is no longer sustainable and the overall bridge between the two parties completely breaks down.
Just take note that there are other possibilities from that of which we observe ;)
Hi Raven,
Thank you for your comment. I guess I forgot to think about that side of things too. It is true what you say and it is sad. But I guess it is also reality. I guess all we can do is live life the best we know how and hope for the best.
Hi babe ;) how are you? its been some time eh.
Well, I would generally have to agree on what you have said so far and yes, I think friendship does play a big part in relationship but I also have to agree with Raven, if one puts so much onto just friendship then if that friendship fails, would that not be the end of that relationship?
By saying this, I think it is also important that besides love and friendship, is to have compromise, trust, understanding, and good communication between the two parties involved.
But I think the most important is that we all have to understand that having God as the center of the relationship is very VERY important.
"God, loves me."
Thats the phrase, as selfish as it sounds. We have to know it deep within our hearts that God loves us that He gave His son to die on the cross. and with that, you start to love yourself.
Cos in order to start loving someone else you have to love yourself first.
When we come to realize that God loves us so deeply, not only the knowing in the mind but knowing and the understanding deep in our hearts, that He loves us, somehow it will resonate in the relationship.
When God becomes the rock and foundation of the relationship, nothing that can break that down. Jesus is the cornerstone and by making Him the cornerstone in everything, including relationship. I think that relationship will never fail. because He never fails.
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